For Beyond 50's "Parenting" talks, listen to an interview with Jim Fay, founder of the Love & Logic Institute. He'll give some easy-to-do techniques that are an alternative way to communicate with kids and young adults that places a heavy emphasis on respect towards them. As an example, one of the most effective ways for your kids to stop with the blame game and not wanting to be held accountable for their actions is to give them lots of empathy before delivering the consequences. Fay's methods make nagging, yelling, threatening, and warnings unnecessary. The turnarounds in their behavior can be amazingly quick!